It’s been three days since I last blogged. They say you should update your blog only 2-3 times a month for readers to value your content. But I’ve already posted thrice in 7 days. What can I do? I seem to have fallen in love with writing, I can’t hold back. My greatest fear at the moment is I don’t want to be stereotyped into a “quantity over quality” aimless writer. Oh well, let me just post this one and from here onward, we shall see!
Recently, I was in a conversation with one of my friends, and the term “connection” cropped up quite a few times. And that led me to overthink about what really this term/word/expression means and whether we all are on the same page when we talk about having a “connection”. Physical attraction is the easiest and quickest way humans associate, even without forming other connection (mental or emotional). Usually, this kind of chemistry doesn’t last long and fades with time. But sometimes, physical connection leads to a mental connection. You start enjoying the same things, plan for similar ideas and basically share mutual interests. Umm wait, yes I am inquisitive, so what about the theory “opposites attract”? I’ve always found myself getting attracted to men who are very unlike me. Is it just me? Does that theory not hold true? I’m not speaking of major differences here but minor ones that make relationships not edgy but exciting.
Anyways, I was always confused between mental and emotional connection and thought of them as one. Then, I did my sweet research and I can finally conclude they have different meanings. Isn’t emotionally connecting with somebody all about accepting them with their fears, shortcomings, respecting their beliefs, and appreciating the emotional baggage that person is bringing into the relationship. Life is all about connecting with others, or finding that spark. You make best friends with people who share the same retardation as you do, you fall in love with someone you connect with, on all levels. We all share a special, incomparable connection with family, our siblings. But what is this connection here we are talking about? Is it some pre-fixed criteria in our subconscious mind? Does our mind choose people purposely to connect with? Is our connection based on our expectations, our ideals, our past experiences? Or does it just happen in a flash? Let me know!!
I’ve heard many love stories where couples claim they just “clicked/connected” instantly. I’ve seen that having a connection can be one-sided as well. One person can feel it deeply while other doesn’t feel the same. I’ve played role of both the parties in my life. There was a time I felt nothing at all and the other person felt insanely connected. And then, there’s been a time where my feelings always got triggered because I felt the connection but the other person didn’t. It’s said if we learn to listen to our souls, we can know all the answers. I will add that one-sided connections are still connections, but don’t take my word for it. Find out for yourself!
Brene Brown sums it up beautifully, “Connection is why we are here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives meaning and purpose to our lives, and without it there is suffering.”