Hope 2017 is treating you good. Can you believe we are in the third month already? Where does time fly? I feel it was just yesterday when I was celebrating New Years Eve with my family and friends and boom, its March now. In my previous blogs, I’ve always talked about how important it is to inculcate in ourselves compassion and to count our blessings, to ignore the insensitive comments of others, to remain positive and welcome life as it comes. As much as I want to practice whatever I preach, I feel somehow I’ve lost control over my mind and what better platform to vent out my feelings than this. Recently, something happened that has left me pondering over the fact that have I been wearing rosy colored glasses all this while?
If you are an Indian, you’d know how important a person’s age is when it comes to marriage. Once you cross 26 (for girls), you and your family start getting questioned. Not sure about the “right marriageable” age for boys, 28 maybe? I read a very interesting article on Huffington post which was posted by a girl who got married after 30. She underlined very thought provoking points and asked her readers if getting married is an accomplishment? She said, “You don’t need any skill, degree or a job to get married but just a willing partner.” Although I understand what she meant, there were many hate comments posted under that article. Some said that finding the right partner is certainly an accomplishment in today’s era when most are commitment phobic or not compatible with each other. Some said getting married is easy but staying faithful in that marriage is an accomplishment. The writer has done fairly well in her life and has also found the man of her dreams for which she’s very thankful to the power above but what she meant was how nobody talks about achievements or struggles or what a girl wants from life apart from the topic of tying the nuptial knot. People are so brainwashed into thinking being married and having kids is the only path to happiness. Let’s just end it here because it indeed is a very debatable topic of conversation.
Anyways, that somehow does and doesn’t relate to my story. I just felt like sharing it. So recently, someone told my parents that it will be a joke if they become emotional on my wedding since I’m so old now. By old I mean, a girl who has surpassed her “right age” to get hitched. It has been bothering me so much and if you know me, I am a very strong minded girl. I don’t get affected easily. I have failed to resonate how does age and parents love correlate? What exactly was that person thinking while making this comment? Was it an indirect taunt to my parents that their daughter is old yet single or a direct one to me that it’s about time I find someone? I have been given full liberty to live my life the way I want to, of course every parent wants to see their child settled at one point but I don’t have any pressure from anyone. What I fail to understand is how can people make such comments and have the guts to be so interfering. I mean just take care of your own family rather than poking nose in someone else’s business.
Also, a week or so before, I met someone and we were generally discussing itsy bitsy chapters of life. In the middle of our conversation, that person told me that I seemed “lost” referring to a certain instance. I swear I literally burst into laughter. My friend, not just I but we all are lost souls. It’s funny how people call their own adventures and life decisions as fun but when others do stuff for light hearted pleasure, then they are “lost”. We are all taking different journeys of life, two people can never take the same path. We can’t love others the way they expect us to, same way we can’t live our lives how someone else expects us to.
That’s all for now. I feel so much relaxed. Writing down your emotions does help. By the way, I’m still working on my travel blogs, one about Tobermory and the other about Niagara’s ICEWINE FESTIVAL. I shall be sharing those soon; maybe I’ll combine both in one. We shall see. In the meantime, I request all my readers to check out my very good old friend and now fellow blogger’s travel shenanigans. Believe me, you will not regret. Her gallivant anecdotes are magical and shall definitely kindle the travel bug inside you. Here’s the link – https://thetravelhipster.wordpress.com/
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I promise the next post will be much more interesting. Until then, keep calm and happy blogging!